Coming out of the closet is a challenging process and a unique journey for those in it, including close family and friends. The first step for a person is to recognize and understand their sexual identity. Once that hurdle is achieved (sometimes a lifelong process), then managing and accommodating beliefs (i.e. religious) and relationships, sometimes losing connections with family, friends, coworkers, etc. It is not uncommon that the fear of losing these relationships impacts the complexities of disclosing sexual orientation.
It is this and other factors that have a negative effect on emotional wellbeing and increases risk for mental illness, substance abuse and for some suicide. This is in part why explicit and intentional symbolism of acceptance with something as small as a LGBT pride badge is so important. Somebody who is struggling in silence may experience hope and a message of “you belong and we are here for you”.
LASD personnel may also have relatives who are LGBT and to a certain degree are also charged with the burden of having to come out of the closet. Those messages will empower them in their journey of self-acceptance and disclosure. This is the strength of the ethos of being part of a law enforcement family. To take care of each other and protect each other’s vulnerability. We need to continue to make strides in being leaders for LASD’s LGBT brothers and sisters.
There are simple things that we can do to promote an environment that allows for individuals who are LGBT to feel accepted. We have to be intentional and explicit in sending the message that our LGBT family safe and embraced. We can place LGBT related material, signs, symbols around the workplace (such as posting the pride badge for example). Avoid making assumptions of sexual orientation (i.e. do you have a girlfriend? Boyfriend? instead using a gender-neutral approach, such as, are you dating? Do you have a spouse?” Speak up against homophobic statements.
There is an increased risk for suicide among LGBT individuals for many of the reasons described. The Trevor Project is an organization that targets LGBT youth in order to provide support and resource for preventing suicide for this vulnerable population. They have estimated that an LGBTQ individual between the ages of 13-24 attempt suicide every 45 seconds in the U.S. Offering a supportive environment that helps the individual experience acceptance and belonging such as those described serves as a significant protective factor against emotional distress and suicide.
More information about the Trevor project and resources can be found at: The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives
